I just started watching Pretty Little Liars on Netflix and I'm only about three episodes in, but it got me thinking ....... how do you know when the ones closest to you are lying?
Surely, you'd be able to tell, right? You know these people back to front and inside out - or is that just their fake persona they have to tear you away from their real ambitions? To deceive you and find out your weaknesses, so that eventually they can use them against you? Although, deceiving someone isn't always to gather information about them. Maybe this person is just different and is just trying to make themselves seem normal and able to fit in. So in front of you they'll act happy, but not too happy. They'll laugh, but not too loud or too often. They'll talk, but it will be simple and a little funny, or sometimes loving or serious. But not too funny, not too loving and not too serious. Then as soon as they are away from all of that, they collapse. They go back into their strange cave of loneliness and confusion and reveal who they truly are, to no one but themselves. And each day as they play out the same character over and over again, there's a voice in the back of their head saying: "But this isn't you" And they become afraid. So they play up this character, or fake persona, more and more, until they can convince themselves that this character is them. That voice is still always there though. Waiting and biding its time until it can spring to the front of that person's mind once more and make them lose it all over again. Make them reinvent the person they are. Then people question them and start to lose faith in who they are: "Why are you acting so different?" "What's wrong with you?" "Why are you being like this?" "You aren't who I thought you were" And that's when it comes crashing down. They realise they can't keep up this false pretence any longer, but they are also afraid of being themselves. So they turn into the backstabber. They take everything you told them and turn it against you. Because they don't know what else to do. They don't know who they are anymore. they have caught themselves up in a web of lies they can't get out of. So they use someone else's weaknesses to give them power because they have lost who they truly are. That voice in the back of their head has broken down and been pushed so far back that this person can't hear what it's saying anymore. No one knows what it's saying anymore. But I like to think it's telling this person to stop and be themselves. That just because you think yourself as different doesn't make it bad. In fact, it's an amazing thing to be different. Look at what you have. Maybe you can dance or play an instrument. Maybe you can recite the whole script of Mean Girls off by heart. Maybe you can say the alphabet backwards. And you see that person over there? They can't do that like you can. They wish they could because it's amazing to them. To you it's normal, but to them it's brilliant! Now think about what's been said. What you've learned. It's OK to be different. If everyone was the same, the world would be a boring place. If you read this and thought it sounded familiar, it's probably because you have a fake persona and don't realise it. I have one, we all do. But I've realise that I need to get rid of it. I can act differently around people, but not as someone I've created. I can be a louder, quieter or more colourful version of myself around different people and in different situations but I don't need to create an all-new personality to go with it. And I'm going to keep to that. Personally, I think it would be healthier for me to do that. I don't want to be retreating to my cave anymore to be myself. I want to be myself all the time. And society is just going to have to deal with it. So what have we learnt? Society is wrong. TV is good for you and is educational. And Pretty Little Liars is awesome.
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